<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0" xmlns:itunes="http://www.itunes.com/dtds/podcast-1.0.dtd" xmlns:googleplay="http://www.google.com/schemas/play-podcasts/1.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Life in Harmony: Pursuit of Happiness]]></title><description><![CDATA[Follow my journey and research around how to take steps toward achieving happiness in life.]]></description><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/s/pursuit-of-happiness</link><image><url>https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!qvEZ!,w_256,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa1189816-1124-4e81-90d3-7a42bd137fca_1024x1024.png</url><title>Life in Harmony: Pursuit of Happiness</title><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/s/pursuit-of-happiness</link></image><generator>Substack</generator><lastBuildDate>Thu, 16 Apr 2026 04:02:40 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/feed" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><copyright><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></copyright><language><![CDATA[en]]></language><webMaster><![CDATA[michellemartinezlee@substack.com]]></webMaster><itunes:owner><itunes:email><![CDATA[michellemartinezlee@substack.com]]></itunes:email><itunes:name><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></itunes:name></itunes:owner><itunes:author><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></itunes:author><googleplay:owner><![CDATA[michellemartinezlee@substack.com]]></googleplay:owner><googleplay:email><![CDATA[michellemartinezlee@substack.com]]></googleplay:email><googleplay:author><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></googleplay:author><itunes:block><![CDATA[Yes]]></itunes:block><item><title><![CDATA[Remember Me: The Significance of Storytelling]]></title><description><![CDATA[From family memories to everyday conversation, I&#8217;m learning how storytelling helps us feel seen, connected, and part of a shared human story.]]></description><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/remember-me-the-significance-of-storytelling</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/remember-me-the-significance-of-storytelling</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 08 Apr 2026 20:32:18 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg" width="1456" height="1040" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/b92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:1040,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:2301365,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A photo at San Francisco's Conservatory of Flowers under overcast skies with tall palms and cypress trees framing the iconic white glass-domed greenhouse in the background. 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In the foreground on a concrete path near a red brick wall with geometric cutouts stands a polished wooden grand piano on its side, positioned beside a large terracotta planter with agave plants." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!2Ku9!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb92c9892-0b75-4bfa-b031-73d96f3058d2_2773x1980.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" fetchpriority="high"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Grandma stood beside the Conservatory of Flowers piano and said to us, "Remember me."</figcaption></figure></div><p>On her 97th birthday, my grandmother gathered her strength to rise from her wheelchair and stand proudly beside the piano overlooking the Conservatory of Flowers. &#8220;Remember me,&#8221; she said, her voice both gentle and commanding. &#8220;This is how I want you to remember me.&#8221; I looked away, tears welling. <em>Of course</em> I&#8217;ll remember you. It was touching to see her present herself in her own power and independence, not wanting her frailty to overshadow her presence.</p><p>That moment stayed with me. Towards the end of life, we all want to be remembered. But perhaps even more, we want people to really get to know who we are.</p><h3>The stories that tether us</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png" width="1376" height="768" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/bac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:768,&quot;width&quot;:1376,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:1912155,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A cozy watercolor painting in warm yellow tones of a young woman with long dark brown hair, wearing a red sweater, sitting sideways on a dark gray couch in a vintage living room. She listens attentively through headphones connected to a smartphone on a tripod recording video. Across from her, an elderly Filipino grandmother in a purple robe with red jacket gestures animatedly with her hand raised, smiling warmly. Background includes a large ornate mirror reflecting a kitchen with jars, a ceiling fan, ornate lamp, plants, and wooden side table.&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/png&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/i/193614077?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="A cozy watercolor painting in warm yellow tones of a young woman with long dark brown hair, wearing a red sweater, sitting sideways on a dark gray couch in a vintage living room. She listens attentively through headphones connected to a smartphone on a tripod recording video. 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Background includes a large ornate mirror reflecting a kitchen with jars, a ceiling fan, ornate lamp, plants, and wooden side table." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!dThJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fbac59cc4-f8c0-40cf-a8c0-272e45d1935e_1376x768.png 1456w" sizes="100vw"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Capturing family stories: granddaughter records grandmother's tales on the couch. (AI Generated via Perplexity based on real photo with faces altered. Original photo by Nikki Pujol.)</figcaption></figure></div><p>Two months later during a recent solo Thanksgiving trip back to California, my grandmother told me she had an urgent need to pass on our family stories: how her parents met, how she met my grandfather, and what it was like to raise a family in her time. She didn&#8217;t want these stories to be lost. So, with guidance and technology from my younger sister and brother-in-law, I recorded our conversations.</p><p>For someone who often stayed in the background during family gatherings, it was quite an experience. She looked right at me &#8212; truly <em>saw</em> me &#8212; and shared hours of memories. It was probably the longest conversation I&#8217;d ever had with her, and I cherished every minute.</p><p>That experience opened my eyes to something bigger: stories aren&#8217;t just entertainment. They are how we construct meaning, significance, and belonging. Research from social psychologists such as Dan McAdams shows that humans make sense of their lives through narrative identity &#8212; the internal story we tell about who we are and how we connect to others. And as Bren&#233; Brown&#8217;s work on belonging also reminds us, true belonging comes not from simply fitting in, but from being known and accepted as we are. When we share stories, we strengthen not only memory, but also our sense of significance and shared humanity.</p><h3>Fading photos and fading memories</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg" width="1376" height="768" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:768,&quot;width&quot;:1376,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:201875,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A soft watercolor illustration from behind of a young Asian woman with long black hair in a ponytail, wearing a cozy red sweater and shorts, sitting cross-legged on a white-sheeted bed in a warmly lit bedroom. She thoughtfully examines a scattered collection of old family photos on the bed&#8212;faded snapshots of weddings, group portraits, children, and gatherings featuring smiling relatives.&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/i/193614077?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="A soft watercolor illustration from behind of a young Asian woman with long black hair in a ponytail, wearing a cozy red sweater and shorts, sitting cross-legged on a white-sheeted bed in a warmly lit bedroom. 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She thoughtfully examines a scattered collection of old family photos on the bed&#8212;faded snapshots of weddings, group portraits, children, and gatherings featuring smiling relatives." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!QyqI!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F398bbc3e-f96c-4f0c-87d8-ce05ead38b5a_1376x768.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Nostalgic moment: sifting through old family photos on the bed. (AI Generated via Perplexity based on real photos with faces altered.)</figcaption></figure></div><p>Later that same trip, I flipped through old family photos. I loved seeing myself surrounded by cousins and grandparents, our faces radiating laughter and warmth &#8212; yet I realized I couldn&#8217;t recall many of those moments. Where was I, really? What were we doing? Why couldn&#8217;t I remember the feeling?</p><p>My memories of the past are fading over time. Because I spent so much of my life away from much of my immediate family, I also lost something else: the stories told and retold at family gatherings &#8212; our oral history that fills us with nostalgia, helps us remember, and reminds us how we belong to one another. Psychologists call this <em>collective reminiscing</em>, and it plays an important role in emotional bonding and identity.</p><p>I cherish those moments more now and want to hold onto them as tightly as I can. How can I preserve these memories before they slip further away? These stories feel like part of what remains of my existence. They show me how I am connected to other people. I look back at these photos with longing, wanting not only to remember the moment, but to recover the sense of belonging I imagine I once felt so naturally.</p><h3>The Value of Storytelling</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!_GYz!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!_GYz!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!_GYz!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!_GYz!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!_GYz!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!_GYz!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png" width="1376" height="768" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/429a54c5-85ac-4c24-8443-736e682bbbc2_1376x768.png&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:768,&quot;width&quot;:1376,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:1930908,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A warm watercolor painting of a joyful Filipino grandfather wearing a black knit beanie and dark jacket, smiling gently with eyes open while reclining on a brown leather armchair covered in a patterned blanket. 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(AI Generated via Perplexity based on real photo with faces altered.)</figcaption></figure></div><p>What I&#8217;m carrying forward now is a deeper understanding of why stories matter. I now understand the value of taking the time to share my stories instead of letting them go unspoken, so others can really see me, my significance, my experiences, and the lessons I&#8217;ve carried through my life. Thanks to Vinh Giang&#8217;s STAGE Academy, I&#8217;m practicing how to bring stories into everyday conversation, and I&#8217;ve noticed that when I do, people lean in more, stay longer, and connect more deeply.</p><p>At the same time, I want to keep making space to hear other people&#8217;s stories, because I see how much there is to learn when we let someone speak from their own lived experience. There is something powerful about understanding one another this way, not just as individuals passing through life, but as people whose lives overlap, influence one another, and shape the communities we belong to. When we share stories, we don&#8217;t just exchange memories; we build belonging.</p><p>I want my children to know me the way I am grateful my grandparents allowed me to know them, not just as a parent, but as a whole person with a history, a voice, and experiences worth passing on. I want them to grow up surrounded by stories that help them feel rooted, connected, and seen. Because in the end, what makes life meaningful isn&#8217;t just achievement or success, it&#8217;s the imprint we leave on each other&#8217;s lives, and the way our stories help us belong to something bigger than ourselves.</p><h3>Resources:</h3><ul><li><p>Dan McAdams on narrative identity: <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/quantum-leaps/201907/how-rewrite-your-past-narrative">https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/quantum-leaps/201907/how-rewrite-your-past-narrative</a></p></li></ul><ul><li><p>Bren&#233; Brown on belonging: <a href="https://ideas.ted.com/finding-our-way-to-true-belonging/">https://ideas.ted.com/finding-our-way-to-true-belonging/</a></p></li><li><p>Collective memory overview: <a href="https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/memory/collective-memory-explained/">https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/memory/collective-memory-explained/</a></p></li><li><p>Vinh Giang&#8217;s Free Masterclasses: <a href="https://www.vinhgiang.com/virtual-events/">https://www.vinhgiang.com/virtual-events/</a></p></li></ul><p></p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Harmony! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Finding Flow: Reclaiming Productivity in an Overwhelmed World]]></title><description><![CDATA[How I'm rediscovering the power of boredom in our hyperconnected lives]]></description><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/finding-flow-reclaiming-productivity</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/finding-flow-reclaiming-productivity</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Wed, 14 May 2025 14:02:45 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!wuqI!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F73d3d685-66a7-4646-b2c7-e88097f13a0d_1792x1024.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I've noticed something interesting lately - I used to get bored a lot more often, and that was actually when I was most productive and found more moments of fulfillment. There's something about having that mental space that made all the difference.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!wuqI!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F73d3d685-66a7-4646-b2c7-e88097f13a0d_1792x1024.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!wuqI!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F73d3d685-66a7-4646-b2c7-e88097f13a0d_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!wuqI!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F73d3d685-66a7-4646-b2c7-e88097f13a0d_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, 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15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">A woman sits peacefully as colorful, swirling cosmic clouds and radiant light surround her, symbolizing mental clarity, creativity, and freedom from distraction. (AI Generated Image from Microsoft Designer)</figcaption></figure></div><h3>The Productivity Paradox</h3><p>When I had more time, my productivity and creativity thrived. I'd constantly find new ways to enhance my personal website, spot inefficiencies at work, and develop tools to solve them. Open spaces in my schedule let me tackle organizational and strategic challenges with clarity, putting all the pieces together seamlessly.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Harmony! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p>I've realized an important truth: I need that downtime to give me more uptime. The moments of apparent "nothingness" are actually essential for my brain to process and create.</p><p><strong>My current challenge</strong>: Too much to do, so little time, and overwhelming information overload-especially trying to keep up with the latest in AI while immediately applying that knowledge.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1vPq!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1vPq!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1vPq!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1vPq!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1vPq!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!1vPq!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg" width="1456" height="832" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/8fb693e2-6680-40d1-a691-d2f0fb4b56aa_1792x1024.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:832,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:183096,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A modern flat illustration of a tan-skinned woman with long black hair in a ponytail sitting at a cluttered work desk in a home office. 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(AI Generated Image from Microsoft Designer)</figcaption></figure></div><h3>My Path Back to Control</h3><p>Instead of staying stuck, here are three things I'm doing right now to get on the right path:</p><p><strong>1. Prioritizing Deep Work</strong></p><p>I'm taking Jim Kwik's Kwik Productivity Course to better prioritize tasks, limit distractions, and create space for deep work sessions. When I can focus without interruption, I not only get more done but actually feel more fulfilled in the process.</p><p><strong>2. Developing Personal Agency</strong></p><p>I'm listening to "The Power of Agency" by Paul Napper, PsyD. and Anthony Rao, Ph.D. (Giri Coneti's recommendation) on Audible to learn how to take control of my life through behavioral and cognitive principles. This approach is helping me regain a sense of control when everything feels overwhelming.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!UT5J!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9b3204cc-08e0-4168-986e-df06fe4e01fe_1248x832.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!UT5J!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9b3204cc-08e0-4168-986e-df06fe4e01fe_1248x832.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!UT5J!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F9b3204cc-08e0-4168-986e-df06fe4e01fe_1248x832.jpeg 848w, 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(AI Generated Image from Ideogram)</figcaption></figure></div><p>One realization from the book that stood out to me: &#8220;Boredom is good&#8230;An emptier mind is freer to move in the direction of intentional deeper and/or creative thought. Developing the capacity to be alone with yourself facilitates reflection, which is a building block of agency.&#8221;</p><p><strong>3. Leveraging AI Tools Strategically</strong></p><p>I subscribed to a year of Lenny's Newsletter to unlock a year's worth of Perplexity Pro and other AI tools to be more efficient with research, communication, and sorting through my thoughts. These tools help me manage information overload by filtering and organizing content based on what I actually need.</p><h3>Breaking Through Analysis Paralysis</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!J8CJ!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F214c7013-e8d4-4408-bbb1-6ac8eb0034f3_1792x1024.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!J8CJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F214c7013-e8d4-4408-bbb1-6ac8eb0034f3_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, 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(AI Generated Image from Microsoft Designer)</figcaption></figure></div><p>The challenge of analysis paralysis is very real in today's environment. Experts recommend several practical approaches to combat this:</p><p>1. <strong>Limit information gathering time</strong>: Set specific time boundaries for research to avoid unproductive rabbit holes.</p><p>2. <strong>Identify three to five priorities</strong>: Focus on just a few key tasks since our brains can only effectively track about seven things at once.</p><p>3. <strong>Create a reverse outline</strong>: When organizing thoughts, write brief summaries of each idea to see how concepts flow together.</p><h3>Moving Forward</h3><p>I've found a coach, my friend and former colleague <a href="https://www.samimelchercoaching.com/">Sami Melcher</a>, who can help me build momentum to keep moving in the right direction. 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(AI Generated Image from Microsoft Designer)</figcaption></figure></div><p>When I feel overwhelmed, I try to remember that sometimes the most productive thing I can do is nothing at all-at least for a little while. Creating space for boredom might be exactly what I need to reclaim the productivity and fulfillment that comes from having the mental clarity to do my best work.</p><p>What strategies have helped you manage information overload and reclaim your focus? I'd love to hear your thoughts!</p><h3>Resources:</h3><p>- The Power of Agency (Amazon): <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Power-Agency-Principles-Obstacles-Effective/dp/1250127572">https://www.amazon.com/Power-Agency-Principles-Obstacles-Effective/dp/1250127572</a></p><p>- Jim Kwik's Productivity Course: <a href="https://start.kwikbrain.com/productivity">https://start.kwikbrain.com/productivity</a></p><p>- Lenny's Newsletter (with Perplexity Pro): <a href="https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/an-unbelievable-offer-now-get-one">https://www.lennysnewsletter.com/p/an-unbelievable-offer-now-get-one</a></p><p>- Sami Melcher Coaching: <a href="https://www.samimelchercoaching.com/">https://www.samimelchercoaching.com/</a> </p><p>- Why Your Brain Needs More Downtime by Ferris Jabr: <a href="https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/mental-downtime/">https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/mental-downtime/</a></p><p>- Overcoming Information Overload in the Workplace: <a href="https://slack.com/blog/productivity/overcoming-information-overload-in-the-workplace">https://slack.com/blog/productivity/overcoming-information-overload-in-the-workplace</a></p><p>- BetterUp's Analysis Paralysis Guide: <a href="https://www.betterup.com/blog/analysis-paralysis">https://www.betterup.com/blog/analysis-paralysis</a></p><h3>Previous Posts:</h3><div class="digest-post-embed" data-attrs="{&quot;nodeId&quot;:&quot;63ea0838-4d6f-4ad4-9c8b-9ac94bcfa130&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;We've all been there, right? 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Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Life Happens: How I Learned to Follow Through (Even After Getting Derailed)]]></title><description><![CDATA[Life Derailed Your Goals? Here's How to Follow Through & Regain Momentum]]></description><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/follow-through</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/follow-through</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 03 Apr 2025 21:01:57 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We've all been there, right? You hit a groove, you're making fantastic progress towards your goals &#8211; maybe it's fitness, learning a new skill, or building that side hustle. You feel the momentum, the excitement... and then *life* happens. A bout of flu knocks you out, a long-planned trip takes you off routine, demanding interviews pop up, or a flurry of special events eats up your time and energy.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg" width="1456" height="832" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:832,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:260766,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A determined Filipina woman, with a look of resilience on her face, is seen pushing a massive boulder uphill. The background depicts a challenging, rocky terrain with a steep incline. The sky is overcast, symbolizing the struggles she faces. Despite the obstacles, she is focused and strong, representing her journey to get back on track with her life goals. The lighting is dramatic, casting shadows that emphasize her strength and determination.&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:true,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/i/160525214?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="A determined Filipina woman, with a look of resilience on her face, is seen pushing a massive boulder uphill. The background depicts a challenging, rocky terrain with a steep incline. 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The lighting is dramatic, casting shadows that emphasize her strength and determination." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hujS!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F2541f1b8-be57-4708-806f-e578b6f26ef0_1792x1024.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" fetchpriority="high"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>Suddenly, that carefully built momentum vanishes. The routine breaks. Getting back on track feels like pushing a boulder uphill.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Harmony! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p>This was exactly my experience recently. I was genuinely excited about the steps I was taking towards greater happiness and fulfillment. But a combination of sickness, travel, intense case study interviews, and social commitments completely derailed me. The frustration was real. How could I rebuild that momentum and, more importantly, learn to *follow through* even when life throws curveballs?</p><p>I want to share what worked for me, some wins I'm proud of, and insights from experts that might help you too.</p><h3>Finding My Footing Again: Small Wins &amp; Smart Systems</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg" width="1248" height="832" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/a6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:832,&quot;width&quot;:1248,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:197036,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A Filipina woman walking along a peaceful, scenic path with stepping stones labeled with small wins like 'First Task Completed,' 'Small Win,' 'Building Momentum.' The path is calm and inviting, symbolizing the ease of progress. The person looks confident and encouraged, with a positive expression, walking towards a brighter future. The environment is serene, filled with bright, uplifting colors like soft blues, greens, and yellows, signifying progress and optimism. 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The path gently curves upwards, suggesting continuous growth without feeling overwhelming." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!C-dP!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa6d0e17d-c50d-4414-aa4e-0a707d582ba3_1248x832.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>When I felt overwhelmed and off-track, I realized I couldn't just jump back into my old, ambitious routine. I needed a different approach. Here&#8217;s what made the difference:</p><p>1. <strong>Starting Small for Big Confidence:</strong> I decided to focus on achievable wins. For me, this meant diving into AI and Machine Learning courses online. These were topics I was passionate about, and gaining certifications felt like concrete progress. Each completed module and earned certificate wasn't just a line on my resume; it was a boost to my confidence, proving I *could* still learn and achieve things.</p><p>2. <strong>Building a Flexible Learning Routine:</strong> Small wins are great, but consistency is key. I started building a routine around learning. This included joining Microsoft&#8217;s AI Learning Community, where I engaged in hands-on learning alongside a passionate and motivated group&#8212;an experience that ultimately reignited my efforts on this blog! Listening to books also became something I could do even when I wasn't feeling 100% or had limited time &#8211; during commutes, while doing chores, or even resting. Learning became bite-sized and adaptable, keeping the feeling of progress alive.</p><p>3. <strong>Making My Calendar My Command Center:</strong> Like many people, I had to-do lists. The problem? They often felt separate from my actual schedule. Inspired by Nir Eyal's work, I started integrating my to-dos directly *onto my calendar*. Using timeboxing &#8211; allocating specific blocks of time for specific tasks &#8211; meant that "work on course module" or "listen to audiobook chapter" wasn't just an item on a list; it was a scheduled appointment with myself. This drastically reduced procrastination and helped me manage my time more effectively.</p><p>4. <strong>The Power of Connection:</strong> Progress isn't just about tasks; it's also about people. I made a conscious effort to maintain and cultivate relationships within my professional network. Staying connected, sharing insights, and offering support kept doors open. Ultimately, these connections played a crucial role in landing my latest exciting opportunity: becoming a Principal Product Manager for the OneAI team at ADP!</p><h3>Celebrating the Wins: Proof in the Pudding</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg" width="1456" height="832" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/e4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:832,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:204262,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A professional photograph of a proud Filipina woman in business attire receiving her Machine Learning certification. She's smiling confidently while shaking hands with a tech company executive who is welcoming her to her new AI Product Management role. In the background, there's a modern tech office with AI visualizations on screens. The scene captures her achievement and the beginning of her career in AI.&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/i/160525214?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="A professional photograph of a proud Filipina woman in business attire receiving her Machine Learning certification. 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The scene captures her achievement and the beginning of her career in AI." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!KdRH!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe4b3f947-58d4-4c81-aff4-1d88c41ab0e4_1792x1024.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>Following these methods didn't just make me *feel* better; it yielded tangible results:</p><ul><li><p><strong>Certifications Secured:</strong> I successfully earned multiple AI and Machine Learning Specialization certifications, validating my knowledge and boosting my professional profile.</p></li><li><p><strong>Dream Job Achieved:</strong> The combination of skill-building, confidence gains, and networking culminated in achieving my goal of landing a fantastic job in a field I'm passionate about.</p></li></ul><p>These wins reinforced that focusing on small, consistent steps and using smart systems really works.</p><h3>Keeping the Momentum: Insights from the Experts</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png" width="290" height="290" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/df2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:1024,&quot;width&quot;:1024,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:290,&quot;bytes&quot;:1979030,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A confident superhero Filipina inspired by Storm from the X-Men, seen from the side view walking forward on an outdoor path with a steady pace. She has long, flowing hair and is dressed in a sleek, modern superhero costume with a cape billowing behind her. With one outstretched hand, she generates a powerful stream of wind that effortlessly blows away obstacles from life, such as sickness masks, scattered paperwork, and dirty laundry and leaving a clean path behind. The background features light rays breaking through the clouds, symbolizing a better day ahead.&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/png&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/i/160525214?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="A confident superhero Filipina inspired by Storm from the X-Men, seen from the side view walking forward on an outdoor path with a steady pace. She has long, flowing hair and is dressed in a sleek, modern superhero costume with a cape billowing behind her. With one outstretched hand, she generates a powerful stream of wind that effortlessly blows away obstacles from life, such as sickness masks, scattered paperwork, and dirty laundry and leaving a clean path behind. The background features light rays breaking through the clouds, symbolizing a better day ahead." title="A confident superhero Filipina inspired by Storm from the X-Men, seen from the side view walking forward on an outdoor path with a steady pace. She has long, flowing hair and is dressed in a sleek, modern superhero costume with a cape billowing behind her. With one outstretched hand, she generates a powerful stream of wind that effortlessly blows away obstacles from life, such as sickness masks, scattered paperwork, and dirty laundry and leaving a clean path behind. The background features light rays breaking through the clouds, symbolizing a better day ahead." srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!iUiU!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fdf2ba488-8947-49e0-974c-b55a3a7f3b81_1024x1024.png 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>My journey got me curious: what does research say about getting back on track after being derailed? Beyond my personal experience, here are some science-backed strategies:</p><ul><li><p><strong>Practice Self-Compassion:</strong> It's easy to beat yourself up when you fall off the wagon. Research shows that self-criticism is demotivating. Instead, acknowledge the setback without judgment (like you would comfort a friend) and gently guide yourself back to your routine.</p></li><li><p><strong>Use Implementation Intentions:</strong> Vague goals are easy to abandon. Try the "If-Then" technique developed by psychologist Peter Gollwitzer. Frame your plan like this: "IF [trigger situation occurs], THEN I will [perform desired action]." For example: "IF I finish dinner, THEN I will open my course platform for 15 minutes." This makes the action more automatic.</p></li><li><p><strong>Re-Design Your Environment:</strong> Make following through easier. If you want to restart your morning workout, lay out your clothes the night before. If you want to read more, put the book on your pillow. Make the path of least resistance lead towards your goal (a concept championed by James Clear in <em>Atomic Habits</em>).</p></li><li><p><strong>Lower the Barrier to Re-entry:</strong> Don't feel like you need to jump back in at 100%. Just start *again*, even if it's tiny. Meditate for 1 minute instead of 10. Read one page instead of a chapter. The act of restarting is often the hardest part.</p></li><li><p><strong>Find an Accountability Partner:</strong> Sharing your goals and progress with someone else can provide powerful motivation and support, especially when you're trying to rebuild momentum.</p></li></ul><h3>My Follow-Through Toolkit: Resources That Helped</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg" width="1280" height="720" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/e6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:720,&quot;width&quot;:1280,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:140090,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;Jim Kwik: Learn Faster, Work Smarter (from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uT_GcOGEFsk)&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/i/160525214?img=https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg&quot;,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="Jim Kwik: Learn Faster, Work Smarter (from 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https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!YZdN!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe6dd8192-47dc-401b-9ae1-c4735683a2f8_1280x720.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>Along the way, a couple of books were particularly influential:</p><ul><li><p><strong>Limitless by Jim Kwik</strong>: This book was a game-changer for my mindset. Kwik breaks down learning into Mindset (believing you can), Motivation (having purpose), and Methods (how to learn effectively). It powerfully argues that our learning potential isn't fixed and our brains are capable of growth at any age. It also offers practical strategies for boosting energy and reclaiming time &#8211; crucial when you're feeling drained.</p></li><li><p><strong>Indistractible by Nir Eyal</strong>: This book provided the tactical framework for managing my time and focus. The concepts of <strong>Timeboxing</strong> (deciding what you'll do and when) and using your <strong>Calendar</strong> as a primary tool for scheduling *all* your intentions (not just meetings) were incredibly helpful in moving from vague plans to concrete actions.</p></li></ul><h3>You Can Get Back on Track Too!</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vKGC!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vKGC!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vKGC!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vKGC!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vKGC!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!vKGC!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg" width="1456" height="832" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/829b5b0b-cfca-46ac-b71c-2d7952954ebb_1792x1024.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:832,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:263713,&quot;alt&quot;:&quot;A Filipino woman stands triumphantly at the top of a lush, green grassy hill. 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My journey taught me the power of starting small, building flexible routines, using smart systems like calendar integration, and nurturing connections. Combined with insights on self-compassion and planning, it's entirely possible to regain momentum and keep moving towards your goals.</p><p>Don't be discouraged by setbacks. See them as opportunities to learn, adapt, and find strategies that truly work for *you*. You've got this!</p><h3>Resources:</h3><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Limitless-Upgrade-Anything-Faster-Exceptional/dp/1401958230">Limitless: Upgrade Your Brain, Learn Anything Faster, and Unlock Your Exceptional Life by Jim Kwik</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Indistractable-Control-Your-Attention-Choose/dp/194883653X/">Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.nirandfar.com/timeboxing/">Timeboxing: Why It Works and How to Get Started in 2024 by Nir Eyal</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.nirandfar.com/your-calendar/">How to Get the Most Out of Your Calendar by Nir Eyal</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://self-compassion.org/">Self-Compassion Resources by Dr. Kristin Neff</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Atomic-Habits-Proven-Build-Break/dp/0735211299/">Atomic Habits: An Easy &amp; Proven Way to Build Good Habits &amp; Break Bad Ones by James Clear</a></p></li></ul><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Harmony! 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ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/woman-hiker-silhouette-mountains-sunset-fall-landscape-female-hiker-looking-over-edge-beautiful-sunset-woman-hiking-image131694403">131694403</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/rdonar_info">Rdonar</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photos">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>When my time in this world is up, I want to have made a difference&#8212;however small. Even if it&#8217;s just to my children, I want to leave the world a little better than I found it.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Balance! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p>My grandfather was a teacher who left an indelible mark on everyone he touched. When he passed, the outpouring of love and gratitude was overwhelming. His life served as a reminder that significance isn&#8217;t measured in grand gestures but in the lives we touch along the way.</p><p>When I left my job, I lost my sense of self. I had tied so much of my identity to my work that I felt unmoored when it was gone. And yet, I wasn&#8217;t alone&#8212;hundreds of thousands of tech workers faced similar layoffs. It made me confront a hard truth: there&#8217;s so much more to life than work.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg" width="800" height="530" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:530,&quot;width&quot;:800,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:973020,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!L3mH!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F58603df7-bdce-45d3-bfea-64e041bf054e_800x530.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Boat lost at sea. ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photo-silhouette-person-lost-ocean-unrecognizable-rowboat-image49365950">49365950</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/floating-lost.html">Floating Lost</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/lucidwaters_info">Rafael Ben Ari</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photos">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>H&#233;ctor Garc&#237;a and Francesc Miralles put it succinctly in <em>Ikigai</em>:</p><blockquote><p><em>&#8220;A life without purpose is a life without direction. People who have a reason to get up in the morning tend to be happier and healthier.&#8221;</em></p></blockquote><p>So, what&#8217;s my reason?</p><p>My children immediately come to mind. If nothing else, I live for them&#8212;to provide the guidance and support they need to lead happy, healthy lives. That&#8217;s part of why I started this Substack: to explore my own journey toward happiness so I can better equip my daughters with the tools to live fulfilling lives.</p><p>But is there something more?</p><p>Garc&#237;a and Miralles also remind us:</p><blockquote><p><em>&#8220;The key to a long and happy life lies in discovering what you love, what you are good at, and what the world needs. By aligning these elements, you can cultivate a sense of meaning and purpose.&#8221;</em></p></blockquote><p>These questions resonated deeply during my recent job hunt, when I reflected on my personal brand through <em>Never Search Alone</em> by Phyl Terry.</p><h3>Career Significance</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg" width="800" height="450" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:450,&quot;width&quot;:800,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:270178,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!hSUn!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F4bce2f70-858a-4e3a-858d-f8103274fcd4_800x450.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Abstract digital glowing tree forming representing growth and transformation. ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/abstract-glowing-tree-blue-background-technology-growth-digital-transformation-image333491327">333491327</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/transformation.html">Transformation</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/arnon29tu_info">Arnon Thaneepoon</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-photos">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>In my career, my most meaningful highlights were all about empowerment and transformation:</p><ul><li><p>Empowering teams to experiment and achieve outcomes.</p></li><li><p>Restructuring teams for efficiency and growth.</p></li><li><p>Teaching product excellence through research and workshops.</p></li><li><p>Mentoring my reports to reach their potential and grow in their careers.</p></li><li><p>Building habits of user feedback where none existed before.</p></li></ul><p>These moments stood out because they aligned with what I loved, what I was good at, and what my teams needed. They were my <em>ikigai </em>at work.</p><h3>Personal Significance</h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg" width="800" height="450" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:450,&quot;width&quot;:800,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:352596,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!oepx!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F5fbef3cd-82b4-45ad-91f4-dafaf9305001_800x450.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Woman writing with laptop in background. ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/college-university-student-doing-school-homework-home-working-late-night-young-woman-writing-paper-pen-college-image151771198">151771198</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/terovesalainen_info">Tero Vesalainen</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>Outside of work, though, I&#8217;m still figuring out how I can help others and contribute meaningfully. Guidance from Marshall Goldsmith and <a href="https://marshallgoldsmith.ai/">his AI bot</a> has been invaluable in this discovery process. Here are the steps I&#8217;m working through:</p><h3><strong>1. Reflect on Passions and Interests</strong></h3><p>What activities and topics am I drawn to and make me lose track of time?</p><ul><li><p>Climbing, board games, video games, TV/movies/musicals.</p></li><li><p>Celebrating events and creating memory keepsakes like photo books and videos.</p></li><li><p>Writing about the results of my research and pondering.</p></li></ul><p>Is my purpose to bring joy and playfulness to others? To create and preserve memories? To share my findings with others?</p><h3><strong>2. Consider My Talents and Strengths</strong></h3><p>I&#8217;m naturally drawn to research and planning for the future, cultivating stability and trust, and bringing structure to chaos. Here&#8217;s what my strengths assessments reveal:</p><ul><li><p><strong>Futuristic &amp; Analytical</strong>: Strategic thinking balanced with data-driven decision-making.</p></li><li><p><strong>Relator &amp; Equalizer</strong>: Building strong relationships and fostering collaboration.</p></li><li><p><strong>Discipline &amp; Organizer</strong>: Executing with precision and organizing the unstructured.</p></li></ul><p>Assessments Reference: Strengthsfinder, StandOut, DISC, Myers-Briggs, NBI.</p><h3><strong>3. Identify My Values</strong></h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg" width="800" height="534" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/b6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:534,&quot;width&quot;:800,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:400410,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!60W7!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fb6b42d11-e8d0-4442-be47-a03736d87ee4_800x534.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Cultivating young plant in soil. ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/hands-people-team-work-family-cupping-young-plant-nurture-environmental-reduce-global-warming-earth-hands-people-team-work-image130165849">130165849</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/freebird7977_info">Wanida Prapan</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>These values guide my decisions and aspirations:</p><ul><li><p><strong>Continuous Improvement</strong> (Growth &amp; Learning).</p></li><li><p><strong>Connectedness</strong> (Integrity, Empathy, and Trust).</p></li><li><p><strong>Sense of Purpose</strong> (Dedication &amp; Passion).</p></li></ul><p>I champion continuous growth, value deep connections and fostering a sense of belonging, and am passionate about inspiring others to pursue their passions while sharing my own.</p><h3><strong>4. Experiment with New Experiences</strong></h3><p>Volunteering, joining community groups, or picking up new hobbies could open new doors to meaningful contributions. This is an area I need to dig into more.</p><h3><strong>5. Connect with Others</strong></h3><p>This step aligns with my ongoing efforts to strengthen relationships and build community&#8212;topics I touched on in <a href="https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/good-relationships-lead-to-true-happiness">my last post</a>.</p><h3><strong>6. Make a Difference</strong></h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg" width="800" height="568" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/e21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:568,&quot;width&quot;:800,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:465484,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!jBh8!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fe21665e0-a28e-45cf-8cd7-0659c6bc537e_800x568.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">How can I help written in white chalk on blackboard. ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/hands-people-team-work-family-cupping-young-plant-nurture-environmental-reduce-global-warming-earth-hands-people-team-work-image130165849">130165849</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/freebird7977_info">Wanida Prapan</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>How can I leave an impact, even if it&#8217;s small, on someone&#8217;s life today?  How can I help?</p><p>Perhaps my biggest impact could be with my children as mentioned earlier since they are a central focus of my life.</p><h3><strong>7. Practice Gratitude</strong></h3><p>A simple yet transformative habit I&#8217;m working to develop.</p><p>Overall, my self-reflection currently suggest my purpose being a blend of helping others grow, finding and sharing joy, and creating connections that leave the world a little brighter and more meaningful. Note that Marshall Goldsmith reminds us:</p><blockquote><p><em>&#8220;Finding your purpose is not a one-time event but a continuous process of reflection and adaptation.&#8221;</em></p></blockquote><p>There&#8217;s no single answer to what I was made for. But every day presents an opportunity to make the world&#8212;or someone&#8217;s life&#8212;better than it was yesterday.</p><p>Have you found your sense of significance? If not, try exploring these steps. Let&#8217;s figure it out together. After all, as Alexander Hamilton asks in Lin-Manuel Miranda&#8217;s <em>Hamilton</em>:</p><blockquote><p><em>&#8220;And when my time is up, have I done enough? Will they tell my story?&#8221; </em></p></blockquote><h3>Resources:</h3><ul><li><p><a href="https://a.co/d/5solg8P">Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life by H&#233;ctor Garc&#237;a and Francesc Miralles</a> </p></li><li><p><a href="https://a.co/d/eh8a6H0">Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action by Simon Sinek</a> </p></li><li><p><a href="https://a.co/d/6uAaTnG">How Will You Measure Your Life? by Clay Christensen</a> </p></li><li><p><a href="https://a.co/d/9piFFml">Designing Your Life: How to Build a Well-Lived, Joyful Life by Bill Burnett &amp; Dale Evans</a> </p></li><li><p><a href="https://a.co/d/4ptaTsM">Never Search Alone by Phyl Terry</a> </p></li><li><p><a href="https://marshallgoldsmith.ai/">AI Bot of Marshall Goldsmith</a> </p></li><li><p><a href="https://marshallgoldsmith.com/articles/what-really-matters-in-life/">What Really Matters in Life by Marshall Goldsmith</a> </p></li></ul><h3>Previous Posts:</h3><div class="digest-post-embed" data-attrs="{&quot;nodeId&quot;:&quot;8b64d176-3ada-4cbf-9320-02c0f2e8f2a6&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;Hello friends from long ago! 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At the very least, this means focusing on the essentials: staying&#8230;&quot;,&quot;cta&quot;:&quot;Read full story&quot;,&quot;showBylines&quot;:true,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;sm&quot;,&quot;isEditorNode&quot;:true,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;Happiness Begins with Fulfilling Basic Needs&quot;,&quot;publishedBylines&quot;:[{&quot;id&quot;:96079612,&quot;name&quot;:&quot;Michelle Martinez Lee&quot;,&quot;bio&quot;:&quot;A Product Manager Leader and Mom of 3 sharing continuous learning on Job Satisfaction, Empowered Teams, and the Pursuit of Happiness.&quot;,&quot;photo_url&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/576d1193-01ff-4d69-8ee0-8695582c858f_1170x1170.jpeg&quot;,&quot;is_guest&quot;:false,&quot;bestseller_tier&quot;:null}],&quot;post_date&quot;:&quot;2024-10-17T14:01:48.857Z&quot;,&quot;cover_image&quot;:&quot;https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg&quot;,&quot;cover_image_alt&quot;:null,&quot;canonical_url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/happiness-begins-with-fulfilling&quot;,&quot;section_name&quot;:null,&quot;video_upload_id&quot;:null,&quot;id&quot;:150019942,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;newsletter&quot;,&quot;reaction_count&quot;:3,&quot;comment_count&quot;:2,&quot;publication_id&quot;:null,&quot;publication_name&quot;:&quot;Life in Harmony&quot;,&quot;publication_logo_url&quot;:&quot;https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa1189816-1124-4e81-90d3-7a42bd137fca_1024x1024.png&quot;,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;youtube_url&quot;:null,&quot;show_links&quot;:null,&quot;feed_url&quot;:null}"></div><div class="digest-post-embed" data-attrs="{&quot;nodeId&quot;:&quot;1b8ebb8d-587d-46b7-bc9f-0d2d0a25942b&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;You know there's more to life than just work.&quot;,&quot;cta&quot;:&quot;Read full story&quot;,&quot;showBylines&quot;:true,&quot;size&quot;:&quot;sm&quot;,&quot;isEditorNode&quot;:true,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;The Pursuit of Happiness&quot;,&quot;publishedBylines&quot;:[{&quot;id&quot;:96079612,&quot;name&quot;:&quot;Michelle Martinez Lee&quot;,&quot;bio&quot;:&quot;A Product Manager Leader and Mom of 3 sharing continuous learning on Job Satisfaction, Empowered Teams, and the Pursuit of Happiness.&quot;,&quot;photo_url&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/576d1193-01ff-4d69-8ee0-8695582c858f_1170x1170.jpeg&quot;,&quot;is_guest&quot;:false,&quot;bestseller_tier&quot;:null}],&quot;post_date&quot;:&quot;2024-10-09T14:55:07.553Z&quot;,&quot;cover_image&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/6f390517-8abb-401d-8854-19e5224824fe_3200x1800.jpeg&quot;,&quot;cover_image_alt&quot;:null,&quot;canonical_url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/the-pursuit-of-happiness&quot;,&quot;section_name&quot;:null,&quot;video_upload_id&quot;:null,&quot;id&quot;:149981855,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;newsletter&quot;,&quot;reaction_count&quot;:1,&quot;comment_count&quot;:0,&quot;publication_id&quot;:null,&quot;publication_name&quot;:&quot;Life in Harmony&quot;,&quot;publication_logo_url&quot;:&quot;https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Fa1189816-1124-4e81-90d3-7a42bd137fca_1024x1024.png&quot;,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;youtube_url&quot;:null,&quot;show_links&quot;:null,&quot;feed_url&quot;:null}"></div><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Balance! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Good Relationships Lead to True Happiness]]></title><description><![CDATA[Step 2: Cultivating Belonging]]></description><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/good-relationships-lead-to-true-happiness</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/good-relationships-lead-to-true-happiness</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Sun, 17 Nov 2024 15:31:05 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Hello friends from long ago! It might be odd that I&#8217;m reaching out randomly but I genuinely want to reconnect and see how you&#8217;re doing!</p><p>As an introvert (one that expends energy in social situations), it takes a lot of energy management to stay connected with people. I used to think the path to happiness involved limiting contact with others. Although I still need my alone time, enough research highlights the importance of community and having a sense of belonging for me to ignore this need.&nbsp;</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png" width="526" height="415.60493827160496" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:1024,&quot;width&quot;:1296,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:526,&quot;bytes&quot;:359584,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/png&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:true,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!GS5I!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F54ab4ef5-3328-425c-bf2c-75c12f524ea5_1296x1024.png 1456w" sizes="100vw" fetchpriority="high"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Friend group hug on isolated background stock illustration. Credit: <a href="https://www.istockphoto.com/vector/happy-girl-friend-group-hug-on-isolated-background-gm1134232696-301326786">cienpies</a></figcaption></figure></div><blockquote><p>&#8220;The clearest message that we get from this 75-year study is this: Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.&#8221;</p><p><em>- Robert Waldinger, director of&nbsp; Harvard Study of Adult Development, psychiatrist at Massachusetts General Hospital, and professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School</em></p></blockquote><div id="youtube2-8KkKuTCFvzI" class="youtube-wrap" data-attrs="{&quot;videoId&quot;:&quot;8KkKuTCFvzI&quot;,&quot;startTime&quot;:null,&quot;endTime&quot;:null}" data-component-name="Youtube2ToDOM"><div class="youtube-inner"><iframe src="https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/8KkKuTCFvzI?rel=0&amp;autoplay=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;enablejsapi=0" frameborder="0" loading="lazy" gesture="media" allow="autoplay; fullscreen" allowautoplay="true" allowfullscreen="true" width="728" height="409"></iframe></div></div><p>My family relationships do keep me happier.&nbsp; There is no greater sense of peace, comfort, and happiness I experience than when I&#8217;m with my mom, even when we&#8217;re not doing anything.&nbsp; My children&#8217;s joy fills my heart, especially when I see them l caring for each other. At the same time, I struggle with balancing attention between my three kids and wish I were closer to the family I grew up with.</p><p>Friendships are equally meaningful but harder to maintain, especially with young children demanding time and energy. Sharing more openly with close friends has been a mental health lifeline, but I often wonder how to cultivate deeper connections with them and with others.</p><h3><strong>Building Bonds Across Different Groups</strong></h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg" width="724" height="483" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/aee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:483,&quot;width&quot;:724,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:243488,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!8j9T!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Faee8213b-77b1-4545-bd7c-ccffcabdd583_724x483.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Two happy females in. conversation. Credit: <a href="https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/two-happy-multicultural-female-college-girls-sit-in-the-cafeteria-chatting-and-gm1358766550-432295871">millann</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>To strengthen relationships, I&#8217;ve been considering how to nurture bonds in the different spheres of my life:</p><ul><li><p>Personal Relationships (Family + Friends I already see regularly)</p></li><li><p>Professional Networks (Close coworkers + Colleagues I could develop friendships with)</p></li><li><p>Acquaintances and Weak Ties (People in shared communities ie. parents of classmates, hobby groups, church small groups, or old friends + Strangers I meet in work or learning spaces)</p></li></ul><p>I&#8217;m not always great at keeping in touch or initiating connections, but I&#8217;m often curious about what others are up to and what they&#8217;re like. Recently, I&#8217;ve realized that I should act on that curiosity rather than hold back, especially since people often tell me to push past my fear of what others might think. As Wayne Gretzky put it, &#8220;You miss 100% of the shots you don&#8217;t take.&#8221; I&#8217;ve come to see that making connections, no matter how small, can improve my happiness and well-being, so why not give it a shot?</p><h3><strong>Taking Steps to Deepen Connections</strong></h3><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg" width="724" height="483" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:483,&quot;width&quot;:724,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:265623,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!yqaJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F56f66a89-7e69-4f7b-873f-39258dacb380_724x483.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Women smile as they chat together in a coffee shop. Credit: <a href="https://www.istockphoto.com/photo/attractive-women-enjoy-catching-up-gm1165208035-320537898">SDI Productions</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>In addition to reaching out, I&#8217;ve been learning how to communicate more effectively. This involves:</p><ul><li><p>Becoming a more dynamic speaker for work and personal interactions.</p></li><li><p>Practicing active listening.</p></li><li><p>Improving storytelling to share more of myself and connect on a deeper level.</p></li></ul><p>I&#8217;m also revisiting timeless advice from Dale Carnegie&#8217;s book How to Win Friends and Influence People, which emphasizes empathy, genuine appreciation, and effective communication. I&#8217;m beginning to see the power of these principles in action.</p><h3><strong>A New Mindset on &#8220;Productivity&#8221;</strong></h3><p>Recently, I told a friend:</p><p>&#8220;What did I do today? I did nothing. Just spoke with my best buddies from Insider and Teachstone. &#8230;That&#8217;s not nothing though. That&#8217;s what I&#8217;m supposed to do more of in life if I want to be happy in life. So today seemed unproductive but it&#8217;s actually more productive than I usually am.&#8221;</p><p>This realization marks a turning point. Time spent building relationships isn&#8217;t unproductive; it&#8217;s an investment in happiness and well-being.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg" width="813" height="429" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:429,&quot;width&quot;:813,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:69733,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:true,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!w8oj!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F095c8685-387d-48a8-a44c-3461c64ebb26_813x429.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" loading="lazy"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Sowing heart shaped seeds of love. Credit: <a href="https://www.istockphoto.com/vector/sowing-the-seeds-of-love-gm1152035642-312408850">Planet Flem</a></figcaption></figure></div><h3>Resources:</h3><ul><li><p><a href="https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2017/04/over-nearly-80-years-harvard-study-has-been-showing-how-to-live-a-healthy-and-happy-life/">The Harvard Study on Happiness</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09KT5CRL6">How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.ben-morton.com/the-power-of-relationships-in-leadership/">Ben Morton on the Power of Relationships</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://gifts.vinhgiang.com/a-youtube-1">Vinh Giang&#8217;s Free 3-Part Video Series on Communication</a></p></li></ul><h3>Previous Posts:</h3><div class="digest-post-embed" data-attrs="{&quot;nodeId&quot;:&quot;6d7f623d-976d-4008-8208-3387fc9ab1b0&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;As I pursue a greater sense of significance and belonging, I&#8217;ve learned that the journey starts with something simple: meeting our most basic needs. 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Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div>]]></content:encoded></item><item><title><![CDATA[Happiness Begins with Fulfilling Basic Needs]]></title><description><![CDATA[Step 1: Exercise, Nutrition, and Sleep]]></description><link>https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/happiness-begins-with-fulfilling</link><guid isPermaLink="false">https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/happiness-begins-with-fulfilling</guid><dc:creator><![CDATA[Michelle Martinez Lee]]></dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 17 Oct 2024 14:01:48 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg" length="0" type="image/jpeg"/><content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As I pursue a greater sense of significance and belonging, I&#8217;ve learned that the journey starts with something simple: meeting our most basic needs. According to Maslow&#8217;s Hierarchy of Needs, our physiological and safety needs must be fulfilled before we can move toward deeper fulfillment. At the very least, this means focusing on the essentials: staying active, nourishing our bodies, and getting enough sleep. Franklin Covey highlights these same areas of focus &#8212; exercise, nutrition, and sleep &#8212; as three of the five essential energy drivers. Together, they form the groundwork for building energy, mental clarity, and happiness.</p><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg" width="1456" height="971" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/f8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:971,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:3196999,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:true,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!7mSJ!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2Ff8b4476f-a734-4f84-81c4-bb2845f5cf0c_2121x1414.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw" fetchpriority="high"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Dumbbells, apple and sleeping eye mask representing healthy lifestyle with exercise, nutrition, and sleep. Photo Credit: ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/dumbbells-apple-sleeping-eye-mask-healthy-lifestyle-concept-background-sport-diet-sleep-healthy-lifestyle-concept-image202746961">202746961</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/udra11_info">Udra11</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/sleep-exercise-nutrition.html">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>Life has a way of making it hard to prioritize these things, but understanding their importance has helped me focus on them. It&#8217;s not just about staying healthy&#8212;it&#8217;s about fueling the energy we need to thrive. For me, success started with identifying my barriers, finding workarounds, and creating routines that are realistic for my life.</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Balance! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work.</p></div><form class="subscription-widget-subscribe"><input type="email" class="email-input" name="email" placeholder="Type your email&#8230;" tabindex="-1"><input type="submit" class="button primary" value="Subscribe"><div class="fake-input-wrapper"><div class="fake-input"></div><div class="fake-button"></div></div></form></div></div><p><strong>What works for me:</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>Exercise:</strong> I&#8217;ve found that even 10 minutes of exercise 2-3 times a week makes a difference. I use the Nike Training app for quick, beginner-friendly workouts. I also enjoy wall climbing as my active hobby which I try to do 1-2 times a week. It feels incredible to reach the top of the wall or tackle a tougher route without running out of breath.</p></li><li><p><strong>Nutrition:</strong> I set a minimum goal of eating three meals a day, ideally balanced with fruits and veggies. Hydration is key&#8212;I&#8217;m lucky that water is my favorite drink! Meal planning is a work in progress, but I focus on simple, nutritious choices.</p></li><li><p><strong>Sleep:</strong> I aim to sleep before midnight, easing into a 10 p.m. bedtime whenever possible. I&#8217;ve had to delay prepping snacks and water bottles for the kids until the morning and leave the dinner dishes for the next day, but at least I&#8217;m able to go to sleep shortly after the kids do.</p></li></ul><p><strong>What motivates me:</strong></p><ul><li><p><strong>Exercise:</strong> Whenever I exercise, I feel like my mental and physical well-being both get a noticeable boost. Not only that but my mood also improves. It feels like a great accomplishment when I get some exercise in. When it&#8217;s climbing, I also get some fun and enjoyment out of it. I miss the days when I had the cardio to run a full game of ultimate frisbee or do a pull-up with ease. But my goal isn&#8217;t perfection&#8212;it&#8217;s progress. Even small wins, like breathing better after a workout, feel like reclaiming a bit of my prior physical abilities.</p></li><li><p><strong>Nutrition:</strong> I&#8217;ve always been a picky eater, but I&#8217;m becoming more mindful of my choices. As I get older, I can see my body showing signs of weakness, which motivates me to take better care of it. I want to rebuild my strength and prevent further decline, and I know that healthy eating will help me achieve that. It&#8217;s not just about feeling better now&#8212;it&#8217;s about ensuring I stay physically and mentally fit in the long run.</p></li><li><p><strong>Sleep:</strong> I started getting worried when I could no longer stay awake late to do chores. Instead, I&#8217;d crash early and wake up the next morning in a panic, realizing I hadn&#8217;t completed everything the night before. Sleep deprivation hits me hard&#8212;my thoughts feel muddled, I struggle to find the right words, and I&#8217;m slower to react. It also affects my memory, ramps up my stress, and leaves me physically drained. It&#8217;s clear that sleep is the solution to all of these problems, and prioritizing it makes me feel more energized and resilient.</p></li></ul><div class="captioned-image-container"><figure><a class="image-link image2 is-viewable-img" target="_blank" href="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg" data-component-name="Image2ToDOM"><div class="image2-inset"><picture><source type="image/webp" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_424,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_848,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_1272,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_1456,c_limit,f_webp,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"><img src="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg" width="1456" height="1100" data-attrs="{&quot;src&quot;:&quot;https://substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com/public/images/8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg&quot;,&quot;srcNoWatermark&quot;:null,&quot;fullscreen&quot;:null,&quot;imageSize&quot;:null,&quot;height&quot;:1100,&quot;width&quot;:1456,&quot;resizeWidth&quot;:null,&quot;bytes&quot;:3155711,&quot;alt&quot;:null,&quot;title&quot;:null,&quot;type&quot;:&quot;image/jpeg&quot;,&quot;href&quot;:null,&quot;belowTheFold&quot;:false,&quot;topImage&quot;:false,&quot;internalRedirect&quot;:null,&quot;isProcessing&quot;:false,&quot;align&quot;:null,&quot;offset&quot;:false}" class="sizing-normal" alt="" srcset="https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_424,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 424w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_848,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 848w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_1272,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 1272w, https://substackcdn.com/image/fetch/$s_!PUu-!,w_1456,c_limit,f_auto,q_auto:good,fl_progressive:steep/https%3A%2F%2Fsubstack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com%2Fpublic%2Fimages%2F8a60eb12-f2d7-4835-b03c-5864c6efbed6_2572x1943.jpeg 1456w" sizes="100vw"></picture><div class="image-link-expand"><div class="pencraft pc-display-flex pc-gap-8 pc-reset"><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container restack-image"><svg role="img" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 20 20" fill="none" stroke-width="1.5" stroke="var(--color-fg-primary)" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg"><g><title></title><path d="M2.53001 7.81595C3.49179 4.73911 6.43281 2.5 9.91173 2.5C13.1684 2.5 15.9537 4.46214 17.0852 7.23684L17.6179 8.67647M17.6179 8.67647L18.5002 4.26471M17.6179 8.67647L13.6473 6.91176M17.4995 12.1841C16.5378 15.2609 13.5967 17.5 10.1178 17.5C6.86118 17.5 4.07589 15.5379 2.94432 12.7632L2.41165 11.3235M2.41165 11.3235L1.5293 15.7353M2.41165 11.3235L6.38224 13.0882"></path></g></svg></button><button tabindex="0" type="button" class="pencraft pc-reset pencraft icon-container view-image"><svg xmlns="http://www.w3.org/2000/svg" width="20" height="20" viewBox="0 0 24 24" fill="none" stroke="currentColor" stroke-width="2" stroke-linecap="round" stroke-linejoin="round" class="lucide lucide-maximize2 lucide-maximize-2"><polyline points="15 3 21 3 21 9"></polyline><polyline points="9 21 3 21 3 15"></polyline><line x1="21" x2="14" y1="3" y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a><figcaption class="image-caption">Apples, measuring tape and colorful sticky notes that say eat healthy, exercise, sleep well, be happy, relax. Photo Credit: ID <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/dumbbells-apple-sleeping-eye-mask-healthy-lifestyle-concept-background-sport-diet-sleep-healthy-lifestyle-concept-image202746961">202746961</a> &#169; <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/udra11_info">Udra11</a> | <a href="https://www.dreamstime.com/photos-images/sleep-exercise-nutrition.html">Dreamstime.com</a></figcaption></figure></div><p>In my research on happiness, I came across <em>The Happiness Project</em> by Gretchen Rubin. Like me, Rubin began her journey by focusing on energy and feeling physically and mentally fit. Writing about my own experiences has kept me accountable and helped me reflect on what really matters for happiness. I&#8217;m curious to see if my path will continue to mirror hers.</p><p>The next step? Building and nurturing relationships&#8212;another key to happiness.</p><p>Resources:</p><ul><li><p>Maslow&#8217;s Hierarchy of Needs - <a href="https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html">https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html</a></p></li><li><p>FranklinCovey&#8217;s 5 Energy Drivers - <a href="https://www.franklincovey.com/courses/6-critical-practices/practice-6-manage-your-time-and-energy/">https://www.franklincovey.com/courses/6-critical-practices/practice-6-manage-your-time-and-energy/</a></p></li><li><p>The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin - <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Project-Revised-Aristotle-Generally/dp/0062414852">https://www.amazon.com/Happiness-Project-Revised-Aristotle-Generally/dp/0062414852</a></p></li></ul><p>Related Articles:</p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/the-pursuit-of-happiness">The Pursuit of Happiness [Rediscovering Joy: Balancing Work, Relationships, and Personal Growth]</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/good-relationships-lead-to-true-happiness">Good Relationships Lead to True Happiness [Step 2: Cultivating Belonging]</a></p></li></ul><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Life in Balance! 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y2="10"></line><line x1="3" x2="10" y1="21" y2="14"></line></svg></button></div></div></div></a></figure></div><p>You know there's more to life than just work.</p><p>Yet so much of your time is tied to it&#8212;what you need to get done this week, how to climb the career ladder, figuring out the right path. But someday, you might not have that job. Where will your happiness come from then?</p><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Michelle&#8217;s Substack! 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Here&#8217;s how you can boost your well-being:</p><ul><li><p><strong>Engaging Activities:</strong> Find your flow by getting lost in something you love. Physical activity also lifts your mood and overall wellness.</p></li><li><p><strong>Acts of Kindness and Altruism:</strong> Small moments of compassion bring immense joy&#8212;not just to others, but to you as well.</p></li><li><p><strong>Resilience and Adaptation:</strong> Life throws challenges, but overcoming adversity and adapting to change makes you stronger and happier.</p></li></ul><p>It&#8217;s time to rethink how you spend your time. Balance your sources of happiness beyond work.</p><ul><li><p>Discover what brings you purpose and fulfillment by aligning your time with personal goals, meaningful relationships, and a sense of purpose.</p></li><li><p>Spend more time with the people who matter most&#8212;family, friends, and your community.</p></li><li><p>Incorporate physical activity into your routine and discover activities that truly engage you.</p></li><li><p>Look for opportunities to show kindness to others.</p></li><li><p>Build resilience by embracing life&#8217;s challenges and growing from them.</p></li></ul><p>Happiness is about balance. Invest in what truly fulfills you.</p><p>Recommendations:</p><ul><li><p>How Will You Measure Your Life? by Clayton Christensen, James Allworth, and Karen Dillon - <a href="https://a.co/d/1y3flLX">https://a.co/d/1y3flLX</a></p></li><li><p>Happy (2012 Documentary) by Roko Belic - <a href="https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1613092/">https://www.imdb.com/title/tt1613092/</a></p></li><li><p>Positive Parenting Solutions - <a href="https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/parenting/what-is-positive-parenting">https://www.positiveparentingsolutions.com/parenting/what-is-positive-parenting</a></p></li></ul><p>Related Articles:</p><ul><li><p><a href="https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/happiness-begins-with-fulfilling">Happiness Begins with Fulfilling Basic Needs [Step 1: Exercise, Nutrition, and Sleep]</a></p></li><li><p><a href="https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/p/good-relationships-lead-to-true-happiness">Good Relationships Lead to True Happiness [Step 2: Cultivating Belonging]</a></p></li></ul><div class="subscription-widget-wrap-editor" data-attrs="{&quot;url&quot;:&quot;https://www.michellemartinezlee.com/subscribe?&quot;,&quot;text&quot;:&quot;Subscribe&quot;,&quot;language&quot;:&quot;en&quot;}" data-component-name="SubscribeWidgetToDOM"><div class="subscription-widget show-subscribe"><div class="preamble"><p class="cta-caption">Thanks for reading Michelle&#8217;s Substack! 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